LOOKING for Answers !

 1) Very well and civilized people of today say that there is no difference between a girl and boy. on the level of giving love, education and privileges. Who wouldn't agree to this!

The question is who will take care of the old parents if they don't have a son. Many would argue that even having a son who will force to leave the house is more hurtful. But dismissing these bad elements what as a society have we planned for those parents who do not have a son or are childless? 

Many would say, daughters can keep them in their old age. But have you seen this much happening in our society. I have not! as daughters are not family decision makers, her in-laws is where she doesn't have much say.

 2) What as a society have we done to rehabilitate the acid attack victims or rape victim girls. How will we assure that they too can dream of the same life that a normal girl lives. What is their mistake? why do we see them as discarded elements of our society.

3)

Vivek Gupta comment on BIHAR

 Its been a long while since I got a great feedback from someone other than myself. :) 

He is Vivek Gupta, he shared his opinion of the my state and he was quite right. He said that there are many genius students and people from the state but they fail to uplift their own people. We keep on blaming the government for all the issues of our lives, but they never thinking of solving any problem themselves. They are in the rat race of fulfilling their ego and attain the paramountcy of self recognition. However, if they thinking of launching something great in the state, they can help thousands of their people uplift.

He related the failure of Super 30 to build a renowned brand and reach its maximum. But it just failed and is still the same despite the fame it garnered during its success. Simply put, Anand may not been a visionary to expand his business by associating larger funding. This is short is the crux of the state.

If someday, someone will think of investing his time and money in the state itself, they state will then prosper. But we have to overcome the mindset of our own personal fulfillment. 

I know I can do this.

Thanks

Bucket list of 50 wishes : SSR

♦ Learn How to Fly a Plane
♦ Train for Iron Man triathlon
♦ Learn Morse Code
♦ Kelp Kids Learn About Space
♦ Play Tennis With a Champion
♦ Do Four Clap Push-up
♦ Chart trajectories of Moon, Mars, Jupiter & Saturn for a week
♦ Dive in a Blue-hole
♦ Perform the Double-Slit experiment
♦ Plant 1000 Trees
♦ Spend an evening in my Delhi College of Engineering hostel
♦ Send Kids for workshops in ISRO/ NASA
♦ Meditate in Kailash
♦ Play Poker with a Champ
♦ Write a Book
♦ Visit CERN
♦ Paint aurora borealis
♦ Attend another NASA workshop
♦ 6 pack abs in 6 months
♦ Swim in Cenotes
♦ Teach Coding to visually impaired
♦ Spend a Week in a Jungle
♦ Understand Vedic Astrology
♦ Disneyland
♦ Visit Ligo
♦ Raise a horse
♦ Learn at least 10 Dance forms
♦ Work for Free Education
♦ Explore Andromeda with a Powerful Telescope
♦ Learn KRIYA Yoga
♦ Visit Antarctica 🇦🇶 33. Help train Women in Self-defense 🥋
♦ Shoot an Active Volcano
♦ Learn How to Farm
♦ Teach dance to kids
♦ Be an Ambidextrous Archer Finish reading the entire Resnick – Halliday physics book
♦ Understand Polynesian astronomy
♦ Learn Guitar  Chords of my fav. 50 songs
♦ Play Chess with a Champion
♦ Own a Lamborghini
♦ Visit St.Stephen’s Cathedral in Vienna
♦ Perform experiments of Cymatics
♦ Help prepare students for Indian Defence Forces
♦ Make a documentary on Swami Vivekananda
♦ Learn to Surf
♦ Work in AI & exponential technologies
♦ Learn Capoeira
♦ Travel through Europe by train

The wrong expectation on students

 I have heard people say "If an engineer quits his job and does something else, it costs the government who invested in him". so to be productive and an asset to the country they shouldn't deviate from their set path.

How ironical is that to blame it to the very students who was not given an option to choose but was rather forced to get fitted in the tight jars of the systems. Its just been weeks that the government has rolled out a new education policy that lets students choose multiple subjects from arts, commerce of science as they like. Doesn't this prove the fact that it was highly stupendous earlier to compel students select an exclusive subjects ? when they themselves are at the very onset to discover their interests. When a person discovers that he want to be an actor during his engineering days then he is labeled as someone wasted the investment of the government. Was it not the duty of his mentors during his growing age to find the hidden treasure in this person and encourage to pursue that very talent ? But on the contrary, every school has just one target to make students achieve highest marks in the academics, that's it. And then the system expects that they comply with their decisions all their life. I find such students very courageous who just let go of such baggage of burden imposed by the society and struggle in the endeavor of their interests in life, despite being late in their journey. The journey that could have started very early in the mentor ship of parents and teachers and whole system.

As time passes, we also become very insecure which is quite normal. If a student is in class Xth, and he likes acting, dancing or any off beaten tracks. It is easier to pursue these if parents and teachers are supporting. He pursues his intermediate and still no support. Then he gets into an engineering college by his sheer hard work because of the concern of his parents. Now will it not be very difficult for him to think of anything else. Has is not been too late ? Now that person is placed in an MNC, tell me how difficult it is for him now who is earning the bread and butter of the family to think of anything otherwise. In my opinion, we have failed our kids to unravel his own potential rather made him fit into what should have been done according to us. We did not let their wings work for them, rather taught them to run as fast as they could. Because that's what the society has been doing for years. Running !

--Vivek

Enjoy the process : Not the results

     From the very beginning of our development i.e. school life, We are given grades or marks and are always compared with our classmates by firstly our teachers then our parents. If a student gets good marks, he is told "You have scored great, always maintain this. keep it up". If a student gets low marks, he is told " look at your other friends, study hard and brings marks like they do".

    As we grow , we face competitions with many other students and parents encourage us saying "if you get got marks, I'll buy a new cycle for you". This entire system is result oriented and it only brings frustration in the mind of students.

    Why no one talks about how interesting a topic is? why no one asks that which subject you find interesting? why no one is eager to what new concept you learnt today? why teachers do not encourage students to think of any new possibility in the concept they teach? If a students hesitatingly asks a question, why doesn't the teacher appreciated his thinking? why does he make him sit by saying how foolish his question was?

    We all have capability of becoming a scientist, but we are forced to be a job person.

Word Power Made Easy.. Letter A

This is my story when I was a kid. Once in school I was abashed by the teacher for not completing my homework. The pain did not abate till the evening. The next day I thought of abdicating myself from the school, yes this was an aberration for a child like me. I started abhorring his classes. He made me feel like an abject student who had no IQ. The thought of abnegating was truly abortive as I was mere a child. My parents tried to abridge the gap between me and the teacher but his absolute sternness would never absolve me of my mistakes. I too was abstinent not to attend his classes. The theories were too abstract for me and the abstruce concept to learn them was also demanding. I felt the learning as abysmal and could never gather accolades in his subject.

Once I was in the market and I heard someone accousting me, his connotation at first seemed acerbic and felt like I should just aquiesce to the command. But this acrid tone was not at all acrimonious rather it was my prejudice to this voice. Yes it was my same teacher. Lacking the acumen to learn, I tought that my eyesight was acute to have seen him. He threw an adage "time is precious". But I was not an adherent who would address his adamant way. Late in the classes, I observed many students being admonished for not being adroit at pronoucing words, yet the teacher wanted them to adulate him for his mercy to enlighten us. We sometime felt that there was a level of aduteration in his teaching. He was sometimes affable to some who knew great deal but the adverse effects could be seen with others. The aesthetic of his teacing never appealed us. We felt there always was an affectation, Affinity for some students, who may be affluent and could afford his coaching. Here we were with an agenda of learing honestly as we belonged to agrarian families. The aggregate we got in the exam made us agnostic. We lost alacrity and alleged him for less marks. We wanted to alleviate him like poverty from our school or he may be allocated to other school that would make him an alloy figuratively and he could find a balance to maintain with all kinds of students. We tried alluding this to the principal when we found him aloof. The altruism in him woke up and he tought this would diturb the ambience of school. In his defence we deduced he was ambigous in his arguments and thus ambivalent in the decision. There was no one to ameliorate our condition. No one found us amenable or amiable. It was just the amenities that other parents hankered for. He was given amnesty for all complaints. His amoral behavious

Kittu and Her Goat !!

There was a cute little girl, 8 years old named Kittu in the village. Her family was poor. All they had was a goat and a cow for livelihood. They used to sell their milk. The girl loved the goat very much, she named her Sita, relating to the ramayan story her grandmother used to recite to her. She used to feed her, milk her, take her out in the evening. Eventually, she got very attached to her. Everyday, Kittu kissed her goat before going to the school and would return running happily hugging the goat.

Seeing this, her father once jokingly said "itna mat pyaar kar isse, bakriya jyada nahi jeeti, ek din mar jayegi ye". Kittu at first couldn't get this. She argued "kyu maregi, mai itna khayal rakhti hu iska". The father did not say anything thinking she is too young to understand.

Time passed and Sita, the goat gave birth to two kids one male and one female. they were very cute. Kittu adored them. She played with them all day. Her father thought if she gets too much attached to them too, it will be very difficult to sell the male kid as he is of no use to me. 

He made a deal to sell the male kid to one of the butchers provided he would never let her daughter know about it. The butcher agreed.

One early morning he took out the young goat and sold it to butcher's shop. Sita, the mother sensed something unusual and she became restless. But she was tied and what afterall she could've done!

When Kittu got up and as usual she went to feed the goat family. Finding, one kid missing and Sita, the mother crying. She ran to look for the kid. She searched everywhere in the house but couldn't find him. Then She rushed to tell her father. Her father said pretending a worriedness on his face "Beta, maine to poora gao chhan maara subah se, par vo mila hi nahi, Pata nahi kaha chala gya."

Without thinking for a second the girl ran in the entire village asking every other person telling them about the features of her goat. Kittu kept crying all day. Her father thought its just matter of time it would hardly take a couple of days and everything would be fine. 

Her father tried to pacify her "beta mai dusra le aaunga, isse bhi achha".

to this, Kittu said innocently with tears in her eyes "papa, mujhse bhi acchi koi beti dhundh lo, jo itna pagalo ki tarah na roye..!!".

The father was shocked to hear this from her as she was just 8 years old. He understood the gravity of her pain. But he knew that nothing could be done now as the butcher had already sliced the goat and sold its meat to customers.

The father now tried to make her child understand the real reason. He said "Beta agar wo kahi nahi bhi jaata, to bhi hamare pass kab tak rehta"

"wo bakra tha, kabhi dhoodh nahi deta, hum kya karte uska ?"

Kittu couldn't understand this logic and asked in return "kya matlab papa, to hum kya karte uska ? usko bahar to nahi fek dete". 

his father said "nahi, jinko iski jarurat hoti hai, use bech dete hai"

The girl thought that there are so many kind people also who would buy and keep them despite the fact that few people just want to get rid of the male goats.

By now, she had stopped crying and then asked her father

"wo kya karte hai inka, matlab ye doodh to dete nahi"..

The father was now caught off guard. He did not know how to answer this. However, with a heavy heart he stated the truth "beta, in bakro ka meat logo ko pasand hota hai, to wo kharidte hai"

Kittu now just couldn't hold her emotions for her cute kid. She started crying uncontrollebly. She just couldn't accept the fact that the goat by now might have been served to someone's plate. She abhored all people who ate meat.

It took her weeks and months to lessens her feelings for him.

Fast forward after 10 years. she was a smart, intelligent and bright student. Being good in studies , She had managed to get a scholarship in the nearby town's college. In her college, there was a debate competition organised on "Vegetarianism". She was to speak for the motion. 

She always wanted to convince people how meat eating is not good. She had prepared all her points to counter every argument that could arise to support non-vegetarianism. She had collected world wide statistics for health issues, deforestation and natural vegetation depletion for commercialising the animal farming industries. How 3/4th of the amazon forests in south africa has been cleared up to grow pastures for animals so that these animals could grow in number. How their over -production has led to extinction of rare species in savaana or other major grasslands.

Kittu heard everyone's argument about how meat is healthy and is the only source of major protiens and how these animals are somewhere related to natural tendency of food chain.

Now it was Kittu's turn to speak. All she could now think was the incident that happened 10 years ago. Everyone had expectation that Kittu will mesmarise everyone by her points to counter all arguments. 

She stood up. She was silent for a while. Looked at the audience. She had tears rolling down her eyes, yet she smiled and said in low tone "Thank You everyone for giving me this opportunity.. I have all the points to state how in no way, eating meat is humane or healthy or protein building or a million benefits which few of my friends here stated, but I don't want to repeat and tell you the things that you already know, yet are not willing to accept"

"I don't want to make you emotional by saying how killing any creature for satisfying your taste buds is cruel and all that.."

I would rather leave you all with one thought.

"These animals cannot speak any languange, cannot think rationally, cannot fight with us, cannot make us realise our oppression like Gandhi did, cannot put any point here in this debate in support of their life"

"But they understand love, the understand fear, they have instincts far better than us, they never judge us, they are emotional fools", "You can call a dog by showing a roti.. he'll come waging his tail and then you can slice his throat, yet the next dog would come even if you do not show roti and just call him with love"

"I am just trying to be their voice, that please eat something else, and let them live, waise bhi wo jyada nhi jeete..!"

"Thank You"